In which I explain how a middle-aged, married, school teacher can become a pedophile without having moral failings, and a homeless man deserves to be on a street corner no more than I deserve to be in my warm bed at night, with a paycheck, made out by an accounting office at a tech startup that I work at, being regularly electronically deposited into my bank account, and why we are all just acting the only way we know how, given the circumstances before us.
I told her that she should be happy that one of her outfits made it into the show, that she needed to work harder and put in more hours, that she would still be able to have a good portfolio and good résumé. I insisted on silver linings and she became defensive and more upset—she directed her frustration at me and said I wasn't helping, and she was right.
My personal guide to the city that explains many places even locals don't know about, as well as where you should eat, where you should drink, where you should go for fun, where to find the best views of the city, and which tourist traps are worthwhile.
A man lackadaisically riding his cruiser bicycle shouted from the street, inquiring the time. He didn't ask for a dollar, and the time I could give him. (Really, he was asking for my time.)
And moments later, life went into slow motion as the dimmed gym lights switched to full brightness and shook the student body from a soft, fuzzy dream into a newly stark and chilling reality. The Homecoming Court assembly was dismissed and we all wandered confusedly down the school hallways. All of the classroom televisions were on. Nobody made it back to their homeroom. We just stepped into the nearest room with a TV...
I used to ride scooters with a neighborhood girl after class back when my family lived on Nellis Air Force Base military housing in 1989. One thing lead to another...
In my experience, once you love another person and they love you back, there isn’t a better drug. You don’t need anything else but to find ways to stay in love. Love is one to one. Love feeds love. I [...]
When my ex broke up with me, she said that one of the reasons she was unhappy with our relationship was because we never conversed. At the time, I was completely dumbfounded. We talked every day. What did she mean [...]
I sipped on the picnic-plastic cup of my Maker’s and Coke as we passed the dance floor on the way to the men’s room. One of my wingmen for the night asks “You fuck with blow?” The forehead between my [...]
I was sipping on a Sailor Jerry and Coke, the sun burning my neck, completely amused that 10 feet away from me, two leather-jock-clad bears, decked in standard issue aviators, combat boots, and waxed mustaches, were enjoying anal penetration in the crowd at the main stage of PRIDE.
He is more R&B than Rap and has a serious regard for cleanliness, making him smooth and fitted. His appearance reflects his business sense and philosophy: don't wait in line.
I listened to hip hop for the attitude and the beats. Rock was hardcore, angry, irreverent, depressive. Classic rock was cliché. Jazz was dated. Blues was sleepy. Pop was annoying. Hip hop was swagger, tongue and cheek. Hip hop made me feel cool. But then I started listening to the lyrics and discovered HOVA is my C.S. Lewis.
We don't need designed experiences or the technology that allows for such. Life already provides for experiences that can lead to moral self-knowledge and spiritual growth. Our society doesn’t need iPads to be civilized.
Life is full of sign posts. I prefer to follow those directions and have been fortunate to end up in places better than anticipated. It's been an amazing trip so far.
From 2004 to 2007 I was in Seeker mode, learning and meditating as much about religion, spirituality, and faith as I could. In November 2007, I become an agnostic. I'll tell you how I got there and what it means for my future.
I've decidedly been agnostic for about 4 years. Lately, while looking for a woman to share my life with, I've begun to empathize with Christians and their faith in Jesus Christ.
I like women. I don’t want to be mistaken for being homosexual. I don’t want my masculinity questioned. I’m slightly uncomfortable with gay humor. I’m slightly put off and embarrassed when I’m hit on by gay men. But if you’re gay [...]
Yesterday, I went to the Pentagon City mall and experienced some firsts, including a pedicure, and getting hit on by an Israeli woman selling Dead Sea salt.
Tempering idealism and reality. Carrying a lady across a river. And smiling Boston terriers named Maxwell. They will all make your tomorrows better than your yesterdays.
The best part about visiting my grandparents is learning their stories and experiencing a culture far removed from where I grew up in Iowa. Most stories involved cropping tobacco and going barefoot.
Much of my life has been defined by my experience growing up in Japan. Coming back to the States, I socialized differently than my peers. I've spent the last 2 decades shedding a thickened hide that kept both the hurt and the love out. Also: Power Rangers, cockroaches, Air Jordans, River Phoenix and Costa Rica.
You're 20-something—your life ahead of you and no idea what you want from it. You should stop worrying and start living because an excellent life happens organically.
To love yourself, you have to open up and love other people. Be brave and force yourself to approach new people. Look around you. Observe the world and offer up your thoughts. People are interested. They want to be loved, [...]
I am leaving for Minneapolis today to attend An Event Apart web design conference. I’ll be staying with my friend Jon while I’m there. It’s going to be a good couple days.
Next time you walk in to Wal-Mart and pass the greeter, make sure you make eye contact with him or her, smile, and say hello. It will make their day, and yours too. Most people walk right in, hurrying past [...]
I was talking with a co-worker, who is Korean, about her impression of The Scallion. I have been there several times, enjoy the quality of the food (not greasy or fried like the other Asian, mostly Americanized-Chinese, restaurants in town), [...]
A couple weekends ago when I stayed at my parents house, I slept in the guest bedroom, which has poor curtain cover; sunshine streams in through the windows in the early morning (around 6am that week). At first, I was [...]
Over the past year, I have been buying lots of books (mostly related to design/web design) from Amazon. I get one in the mail, and super excited, dive into it, only to not finish the book and put it on [...]
I recently watched an interview with Stephen Fry entitled “What I wish I knew when I was 18.” A lot of what Stephen said in that video resonates with me because recently I have been re-evaluating what I value in [...]
Went to the 80/35 music festival in downtown Des Moines this past weekend. My sister and her boyfriend came and spent the weekend with me. The headliners Spoon and Modest Mouse were gave excellent performances, but I think Spoon was my [...]
As a kid I did not have much foresight into the future. Actually, I’m not sure I was even concerned with it, beyond general milestones: a career, a home, a wife, gray hair. At some point in the last few [...]
