I’m not interested in casual sex and don’t sleep around. I don’t like going out and getting blackout drunk. I don’t smoke or use drugs. I don’t use porn. I don’t gossip or talk shit about your friends or family.
I am interested in commitment and nurturing a deeper relationship. I do like learning about your interests and helping you achieve your goals. I do want to help you stay mentally and physically healthy. I do want to care for your friends and family. I want to have a family.
Tracy McMillan, TV writer for Mad Men, recently wrote Why You’re Not Married for The Huffington Post. She concludes her article:
The bottom line is that marriage is just a long-term opportunity to practice loving someone even when they don’t deserve it. Because most of the time, your messy, farting, macaroni-and-cheese eating man will not be doing what you want him to. But as you give him love anyway — because you have made up your mind to transform yourself into a person who is practicing being kind, deep, virtuous, truthful, giving, and most of all, accepting of your own dear self — you will find that you will experience the very thing you wanted all along:
Love.
While the feminist in me agrees that all women do not need to have marriage in mind as their primary life goal, I do recognize that many people seek the happiness that only partnership and family can bring a person. I have never been so content and self-confident as when I was with my family or a long-term partner.
I am already a kind, deep, virtuous, truthful, giving man who is accepting of my own self. But loving you for the rest of my life will force me to be that much more so; marrying and loving you for the rest of my life will be my greatest achievement.
I’m a man of character. I’m looking for a woman of character.